One thing you can be sure of: if an article’s headline begins with “you won’t believe…” or – worse – a dollar amount, you probably oughtn’t rely on the veracity of anything that comes next. And that isn’t to speak poorly of escorts or companions who have been interviewed or profiled for articles like this. This is almost all to do with writers and websites trying to amp up the “wow factor” to get clicks and shares, off the backs of sex workers.
Since slixa is lucky to feature some of the most exclusive professional companions in the world, we thought it was about time we countered some of this fake news by talking directly to the women who likely truly claim the “highest paid” and “most exclusive” mantles, but are too focused on managing their brands and businesses to brag to press agents about it.
Amy Taylor suggests that the more recent versions of these money-focused content fillers are actually part of a feedback loop amongst adult entertainers and companions themselves, fueled and fostered by curated social media feeds and envy. “I see all of us reflected in that… we’re the ones clicking on said articles, because it’s our values and envy and awe of the extreme outliers (the very wealthy companions) that provide insight into why these articles are written. We’re all obsessed with status and wealth, and every companion entering the business learns early on that they’ll make more, travel to more exotic locales, eat better food, and be able to work less, if they’re able to charge more. They learn that the more conventionally beautiful and sensually skilled one is, the more income she’ll command. The money becomes the yardstick by which we measure success, while we ignore that happiness doesn’t necessarily come through maximizing earning capacity.”
But, is it all negative to focus on the earning power of a successful woman? Taylor, again: “the phenomenon of a truly independently wealthy woman is a relatively recent one (for almost all of human history, the only wealth that came to women was through husbands or fathers), so a self-made, free, physically liberated woman is inherently fascinating because it’s quite rare. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, to be interested in such a unicorn!”
“Looks alone will not yield long-term success,” adds Taylor. “To do well over time, one also has to be intelligent, reliable, honest and have a great personality.”
“A lot of people conflate high end and high paid,” adds Bolde. “To me, a high-end escort is one who provides a consistently excellent experience to their clients. Rates are an amalgamation of so many factors that it’s difficult (impossible?) to meaningfully compare them from one business to the next. And that’s really the point, right? We’re running businesses, and our businesses are primarily impacted by the market in which we’re operating and the availability that we have to work with. That’s it. That’s all rates tell you.”
As US laws become increasingly draconian and put providers and directories at greater risk, it makes little sense that anyone would be running around publicly flaunting how much money they earn from their work. Again, Nia Bolde: “In my experience, the industry has required us to have an increasingly intimate public presence at precisely the time when it is most dangerous for us to do so. Every month it seems like the walls close in a little bit more on our right to even exist in public spaces. It’s required of us to be (even more) inventive and adaptive in our approach and to rely (even more) heavily on one another.”
This work is work, and clickbait that strives to delegitimize that fact through shock or condescension isn’t worth the strain of your fingers to tap that mouse. You’re better off following women like Chanel, Nia, and Amy on social media for a glimpse at what “exclusive” really looks like.